Fundamentally, fashion is like friendship. Some pieces you could keep forever and make you feel fabulous every time you wear them, some pieces come and go as your life moves on and some pieces should just never have been bought.
I recently went through a situation with a so-called friend that most women go through with a particular outfit. Having known and had this person in my life for a few years, I wasn’t feeling the love from her anymore. No matter how much room I was creating in my life for her and how much effort and time I tried to put into our friendship, I was having it thrown back into my face, similar to when you buy a very expensive dress, and it makes you feel more horrible and self-conscious than you’ve ever felt before. After months of being told to get rid of her from my life, I still wasn’t listening and the situation turned on me before I could control it and it blew up in my face. After investing four years of my life in this friendship and fitting my life round decisions made by her and worst of all, feeling second best to someone who didn’t deserve my time, i was made to feel like it was entirely my fault even though I wasn’t being the volatile one, so in this way, I guess the dress just didn’t fit. She was that River Island luminous orange dress that, in the end, belonged as far away from my life as possible.
Fashion can be just as fickle and unforgiving but when you find the few diamonds in the rough that will carry you through life, you can feel your love for fashion once more. I have a few of the best friends I could ever ask for and I am eternally grateful for them. My best mates are like the outfits in my wardrobe that always make me feel good about myself, the Jones and Jones print dress, the Lipsy grecian, the bodycon skirt, the Louboutins, the items I know I could never live without. Fashion can be a cruel mistress but can also be the shining beacon in your life, the very thing that makes you happiest, just the way the friendships in your life can be. I would never go back to that friendship, it didn’t fit, didn’t suit and made me feel awful for reasons unknown to me, but that’s the way life and fashion goes, it’s not my colour, it wasn’t my shape, get over it, move on. It wouldn’t make me any less thankful for the friendships and the fashion that does suit me, that makes me look and feel like a better person.
That’s what fashion is all about. It’s not superficiality; it’s created and designed to make the wearer look and feel like the best version of themselves. What suits you might not suit me, and that’s more than ok, because that’s what being unique is all about. Why would you want everything to fit, it may be frustrating at times, but when you find something that does, it’s the most amazing feeling in the world to know that it’s made just for you.